The pattern

"I want you to" plus a verb tells someone directly what you would like them to do. It is clear and a little strong, so it belongs with people you are close to or people you manage: a child, a partner, a teammate. "I want you to call me when you land" is caring. "I want you to finish this today" is a boss talking. To a stranger or a client it is too direct; use "Could you" or "I'd like you to" instead.

The pattern has a warm side too. "I want you to know" and "I want you to have this" are how people say important, kind things without a speech.

Say it out loud

Tap a sentence to hear it. Say it after the voice.

  1. The negative: I don't want you to. Common for reassuring someone.

  2. Flip it around and it becomes an offer: want me to.

Check yourself

1To whom does "I want you to finish this today" sound natural?
2Which line is warm rather than bossy?
3How do you turn it into an offer?

Practice · 3 min

Tell someone what you'd like them to do. Prompt on the left, one natural sentence on the right.

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Say it today

Use it once in a real conversation before tomorrow. Out loud counts, even to yourself.