Words to know
stop thinking about work and relax
become so exhausted from work that you can't go on
decide the limits of what you will and won't do
Step 1 of 5
Listen first
No text yet. Listen for who, where and what goes wrong.
- AnanyaText hidden. Listen first.
- EricText hidden. Listen first.
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Practice · 3 min
Shadow Ananya first. She's sharing something personal, so "Then I burned out two years ago" should be quiet and plain, with no drama. Then take Eric's part. He's defensive at first and half convinced by the end; his last line is a joke that means yes.
- AnanyaEric, you sent me an email at eleven forty last night.
- EricDid I? Sorry. I was finishing the test plan.
- AnanyaYou don't need to apologize. I'm more worried about you. That's the fourth late email this week.
- EricEveryone works late here. The release is in two weeks.
- AnanyaI don't. I stop at seven, and I don't open email until the morning.
- EricHow? Don't people get annoyed?
- AnanyaAt first, a bit. Then they got used to it. If it's really urgent, they call.
- EricAnd how often do they call?
- AnanyaAbout twice this year. Everything else could wait until morning.
- EricI can't switch off like that. If I don't check, I lie awake wondering what I've missed.
- AnanyaI used to be the same. Then I burned out two years ago and had to take a month off.
- EricI didn't know that.
- AnanyaMost people don't. That's why I set boundaries now. I don't want to go through that again.
- EricOkay. Maybe I could start small. No email after nine?
- AnanyaThat's a good start. Take the email app off your phone, too. That's what really helped me.
- EricOff my phone? That feels dangerous.
- AnanyaTry it for one week. If Bangalore is still standing, keep going.
- EricFine. One week. But if the release breaks, I'm blaming you.
Say it today
Use it once in a real conversation before tomorrow. Out loud counts, even to yourself.