Words to know
support one person against another in an argument
choose not to get involved
understand why someone thinks something, even if you disagree
Step 1 of 5
Listen first
No text yet. Listen for who, where and what goes wrong.
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Practice · 3 min
Take Kwame's part first, then Leila's. Leila is intense and in a hurry; Kwame stays calm and slows the conversation down on purpose. Copy her sharp "So you're on his side." and his relaxed joke right after it.
- LeilaKwame, you need to tell Samuel he's being ridiculous.
- KwameHello to you too. What's he done now?
- LeilaHe wants to host Thanksgiving again. For the fourth year in a row.
- KwameAnd you want to host it this year.
- LeilaI've got the bigger kitchen now. And Mom's knees can't handle his stairs.
- KwameThat's a good point.
- LeilaSo you agree with me. Great. Tell him.
- KwameWait, I never said that. I'm not taking sides here.
- LeilaYou're my brother. You're supposed to be on my side.
- KwameI'm his brother too. And honestly, I see his point as well.
- LeilaWhat point? He has no point.
- KwameHe's done it for years. The kids love his house. It's a tradition for them.
- LeilaSo you're on his side.
- KwameI'm on the turkey's side. I just want to eat.
- LeilaKwame, be serious.
- KwameOkay. Why not do it together? Dinner at your place, dessert at his.
- LeilaHis house is twenty minutes away. We'd have to drive between courses.
- KwameEveryone needs a walk after turkey anyway. Call him and suggest it.
- LeilaFine. But if he says no, I'm telling him it was your idea.
Say it today
Use it once in a real conversation before tomorrow. Out loud counts, even to yourself.