When you need this

Two short moments. In the first, a stranger outside a bar or a train station asks you for a light, and you need a quick answer either way. In the second, someone's smoke is bothering you, and you want it to stop without starting an argument.

The first moment is casual. "Got a light?" is short for "Do you have a lighter?" and the answer can be as short: "Sorry, no." You'll also hear "Can I bum a cigarette?", which is slang for asking someone to give you one. The second moment is the tricky one. Americans complain about smoke with a reason and a request: "The smoke's getting in my eyes. Would you mind blowing it the other way?" A reason makes the request sound fair, and a question makes it sound polite. Save "I hate smoking" for friends; to strangers, talk about the smoke, not the person.

Phrases

asking for a lighter or matches

the plain no

slang: asking someone to give you one

the reason behind your no, with no apology needed

a calm statement of the problem

a small, polite request

a strong dislike, for friends and family

the common complaint after a night near smokers

a health reason people respect right away

softening a complaint so it doesn't sound like an attack

Say it out loud

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Practice · 3 min

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Say it today

Use it once in a real conversation before tomorrow. Out loud counts, even to yourself.