When you need this

After a first date, a new job or a friend's party, someone always asks, "So, what's he like?" or "What did you think of her?" The answer is usually a short comment, and the comments people remember are about character: kindness, humor, confidence, how someone treats other people.

Looks come up too, and that's normal, but the respectful way is warm and light. "He has a great smile" or "She's got great style" sounds friendly. Comments about someone's body sound rude, even as a joke, and they make the listener uncomfortable. When you pay a compliment to the person directly, talk about something they chose, like their jacket, haircut or cooking, rather than something they can't change.

Phrases

kind and gentle

conversation with her feels relaxed

he's funny in a clever way

they remember small things and care about others

she dresses well in her own way

a warm, respectful comment on looks

attractive; polite and neutral

attractive in a friendly, casual way

sure of herself and still kind

he pays attention when you talk

a direct, friendly compliment

a compliment on a choice someone made

Say it out loud

Tap a sentence to hear it. Say it after the voice.

Practice · 3 min

Say a kind comment for each situation.

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Say it today

Use it once in a real conversation before tomorrow. Out loud counts, even to yourself.