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At many weddings in the US and the UK, the couple chooses a best man and a maid of honor: usually the closest friend or a sibling. They stand next to the couple, help with planning, often organize a party before the wedding, and give a speech at the reception. Being asked is a big deal, so the English around it is warm and a little formal.

The standard reply is "I'd be honored." It sounds old-fashioned on paper, but people really say it, because it shows you understand what the request means. If you have to say no, say it early and kindly, and offer another way to help.

Other traditions have their own versions. At many Chinese weddings, the groomsmen and bridesmaids play games at the bride's door before the groom can come in. At Indian weddings, brothers, sisters and cousins often take these roles together. The words below work for all of them.

Phrases

the groom's main helper and supporter

the bride's main helper and supporter

the rest of the couple's close friends in the wedding

everyone who stands with the couple during the ceremony

the question itself

the warm, standard yes

thanks for the trust behind the request

give a short speech and ask everyone to raise a glass

a party for the groom or bride before the wedding

a classic job for the best man

a gentle start to saying no

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