Words to know
behave a certain way for a limited time, often while growing up
start talking honestly about your feelings
become older and more independent sooner than you expect
Step 1 of 5
Listen first
No text yet. Listen for who, where and what goes wrong.
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Practice · 3 min
Take Marcus's part first, then Aiko's. Marcus starts polite and a little guarded, then admits the truth; Aiko is warm and knowing. Copy Aiko's three flat, bored teenager words, "Fine." "Nothing." "Whatever.", and the quick hope in "Wait. It's her."
- AikoMarcus! I haven't seen you since the Seattle office closed. How are you?
- MarcusAiko, hi. I'm good, thanks. Busy, but good.
- AikoAnd how are the kids? Your daughter must be in high school now.
- MarcusShe's fifteen. And Sam just turned twelve. They're growing up fast.
- AikoFifteen already? How's she doing?
- MarcusGreat, I think. Honestly, I'm not sure. She hardly talks to me anymore.
- AikoAh. The one-word answers? "Fine." "Nothing." "Whatever."
- MarcusExactly that. How did you know?
- AikoMy son did the same thing at fifteen. It's a phase, mostly.
- MarcusI've tried everything. Dinner questions, weekend trips. Nothing works.
- AikoCan I tell you what finally worked for us? The car.
- MarcusThe car?
- AikoKids open up when you're both looking at the road, not at each other.
- MarcusThat's an interesting idea. No eye contact, no pressure.
- AikoMy son told me about his first girlfriend on the highway.
- Marcus(phone buzzes) Wait. It's her. "Practice is over. Can you come get me?"
- AikoThere's your chance. Take the long way home.
- MarcusI will. Aiko, thank you. Let's get coffee soon, properly.
Say it today
Use it once in a real conversation before tomorrow. Out loud counts, even to yourself.