The pattern

"I'm having a hard time" plus an -ing verb means you are struggling with something right now. It is stronger than "it's hard for me to", because it says the difficulty is happening at this moment, not in general. "I'm having a hard time understanding this" is what you say with the document in your hand.

It is the sentence that gets you help. It admits a problem, it does not blame anyone, and it invites the other person to step in. With a noun, use "with": "I'm having a hard time with the new software."

Say it out loud

Tap a sentence to hear it. Say it after the voice.

  1. With a noun, "with": a hard time with the app, a hard time with my landlord.

  2. Alone, with no verb, it means someone is going through a rough period.

Check yourself

1Which is stronger and more "right now"?
2Which form follows "I'm having a hard time"?
3"She's having a hard time" with nothing after it means...

Practice · 3 min

Ask for help without blaming anyone. Prompt on the left, one natural sentence on the right.

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Say it today

Use it once in a real conversation before tomorrow. Out loud counts, even to yourself.